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Teach LYVE Not Lying to Kids

Dottie Love, DTM and Leeza Carlone Steindorf

How to Stop Training Your Children to Lie

Tip #1: We are taught that kids want to push our buttons, make our lives hard,
Believe your kids or will say anything to get what they want. Maybe sometimes. But never
should we stake our entire relationship with them on these falsehoods.
Believe your children and let them know you do. When you think they
are lying, give them the benefit of the doubt and tell them so. This builds
trust in you and confidence in your faith in them. If you believe in their
honesty, they will learn to as well (even if it takes time) and grow the
courage to tell the truth.
Tips #2: Anger is not a sign of strength, but of helplessness. When you are sure and
Dismiss anger as a tool solid in your perspective and decisions, there’s no need to be angry. You
may not like what has happened, but anger becomes superfluous (small
statement, big job).

• Dance of Anger a book by Harriet Lerner is an amazing tool.
• Strength Without Anger videos by Raun Kaufman give huge insights
into revamping your anger code.

Be honest about your disappointment, sadness, or frustration. Not
using anger as your tool of choice will have a far reaching impact, with
encouraging honesty.

Tip #3: Punishment imposes restrictive, painful or unrelated actions to an event.
Identify the consequences Consequences are directly related and are educational, intending to train
desired and useful behavior.

Parenting Success Blueprint free online
webinars that explains how to engage effective
consequences. (Highly Recommended)

Tips from Author Leeza Carlone Steindorf

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